A marriage based on love and respect doesn’t just happen. Both spouses have to do their part.

“For better, or for worse, till death do us part” can sound so romantic – but it can also sound deadly. Regardless of whether one marries in a secular or religious ceremony most couples still believe that they are making a permanent commitment. Of course we all know that the divorce rate is between 40 – 50%, but most couples who marry don’t think it will happen to them.

Obstacles are going to be trials and hardships that are going to come your way. It’s part of your marriage life. You’re going to have some disagreements, you’re going to have some times where things are stretched or strained. What do you do in those times? Pray!

Prayer is the first line of defense every time. Seek the will of God for your life and your marriage. Ask Him to show you where you can be the spouse He calls you to be. Pray for strength and unity in your marriage.

Love is a decision. It reminds couples that as wonderful as the feeling of love is, it is not sufficient for a marriage. At some point (actually many points) husband and wife need to decide to love – even when they don’t feel like it. Acting on this decision by doing loving things for your spouse, speaking kindly and respectfully, and deciding over and over to pay attention to the relationship makes love rekindle.

Couples who understand the essence of making a permanent commitment realize that it’s much more than just a decision not to divorce. It’s a commitment to do the daily work of keeping the commitment alive. It may mean turning off the TV or taking a nightly walk in order to listen to each other’s concerns. These simple actions, and many more, are the stuff of commitment. They are the actions that keep a marriage vibrant, interesting, and exciting so that temptations to make another choice don’t erupt. Although marriage as a permanent commitment is not restricted to people of faith, Christians might reflect on the scripture to, “take up your cross every day and follow me.” (Luke 9:23) Every day we recommit to follow our beloved and vice-versa.

Peace and Blessings!

– Marriage of God